OyeRonke Sanni - The Nurturer

The people within our circles of influence especially the younger ones are not empty rather they are full of inherent talents, yet to be tapped potentials like sealed scrolls not blank slates eargerly waiting to unfold - layer by layer. Our nurturing steps will thus be to read, look deeply to gain insights not necessarily rewrite the scrolls. Each child, every young person, carries that unique spark -  a whisper of purpose etched into their very beings. Our role as nurturers is not to impose a blueprint, but to gently reveal what is already there, like the patient unfolding of a sacred manuscript. And yes, that takes discernment, intentional listening, and the art of quiet guiding — not overbearing, stifling re-direction. True nurturing sees talent not as a thing to control, but as a seed to water - to bud, blossom and thrive. 🎨 A child who doodles on every available surface might just be the next visual storyteller. 🛠️ The one who disassembles the radio might carry the mi...

It has been a few days, yes almost a full week since the celebration of Father's Day, all over the world. While we are still within the month, it is pertinent to look at the menfolk who deliberately nurture others - children/wards/students/proteges  etc. These group of intentional men are not just raising children rather they are raising nations. This uniqueness cuts across the board irrespective of the titles - biological dad, step-dad, uncle, big cousin,  foster dad, adopted son turned care-giver, ègbon adugbo (an older, recognized, respected person in the community - a mentor), their thoughtful contributions are profound and make huge impact that affects the next generations - the ripple effects. The contributions made: school runs, the gentle back-pats, how to knot a tie, the wise counsels, gentle reprimands and admonitions to set things right, or just being a great example of a wholesome individual make all the difference in the child's life as he/she grows through dif...

Hmmmmmmm, not all nurturers are biological relations...,they do show up in different sizes, shapes etc, not one size fits all.  It is another day to celebrate a group of special persons, who get to be overlooked more often than not all year round (these ones who may not always say much, but their presence is very much loud in impact). As we mark yet another Father’s Day, we take a moment to spotlight the often unsung but deeply powerful role of men as nurturers — not just in title, but in consistent actions. Whether it is the biological dad who shows up at school events, the uncle who quietly pays fees, the foster father who stands firm as a safe place, or even that thoughtful older cousin who always checks in - these men shape lives in ways that linger long after childhood. Nurturing is not only about hugs and lullabies, rather it is - ...sometimes, the reassuring “I've got you,” - …the lifted eyebrow that says “you can do better,” - …the silent sacrifices made without...

Hmmmmmmm, atmosphere, atmospheric, spaces et al. Have you ever walked into a space and felt instantly lighter, happier? Or spent time with someone who left you buzzing with renewed hope and some good energy? That is the quiet power of your immediate surroundings/ environment, the soft, quiet, force that gently shapes your thoughts, moods, and even your dreams. Whether it is a peaceful room filled with positive affirmations and green plants, or a circle of people who clap the loudest for your small wins, nurturing may not necessarily be vocal, however it always leaves a feeling. 💡 Your immediate environment counts. Sometimes the most far-reaching and effective form of self-care is walking away from chaos and choosing peace. This could in the form of: - playing soul-lifting music. - candlelight journaling with all its calmness - soaking up the sunlight in silence. - a walk with someone who “gets it.”, who is on the same page with you. 💬 The company you keep matters. The Hol...

It has been awhile out here, prepping for a few nurturing events - mental wellness, etc.  Let us take a look to another angle of great nurturing - establishing healthy boundaries, for wholesomeness without unnecessary drama.  While nurturing sounds warm and fuzzy it can however, quickly spiral into chaos, resentment, and emotional fatigue. It is like planting a beautiful garden but forgetting to fence it off - for both internal and external protection (security) to maintain the desired structure.  Before you know it, wild weeds and stray animals would have made themselves comfortable amongst other things.  True nurturing across the board whether with children, loved ones, mentees, or even colleagues, thrives best when guided by mutual respect, clear limits (personal spaces/me times) and emotional self-awareness.  It is not about being rigid or cold rather it is about being intentional and mindful.  Boundaries are the gentle "nos" that protect your "yeses." ...

Hmmmmmmmm, did you know you know that May 16th was International Boys’ Day?  The theme for this year 2025 is *“Building Self-Esteem in Boys: Stand Up, Be Heard, Be Seen”* hits home for many of us who believe in nurturing the next generation of confident, strong, resilient and kind young men. A healthy Self-Esteem matters greatly In a world where boys are often told to “man up”, "be a man",  rather than being opportune to speak up.  Consequently, building self-esteem becomes very crucial.  It is about teaching boys, young men that being seen and heard is of utmost importance and not to be overlooked. When boys feel valued and confident, they are better equipped to navigate challenges and embrace who they truly are. A few points on nurturing confidence in a step by step approach to enrich healthy growth and mental wellness without piling on the usual pressures: - Affirm Their Worth: Celebrate their small wins, not just achievements but effort, g...